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Pair Pressure

Published 9/10/19

By Greg Johnson

What If...

There are always a few guys at school who like the girls. They talk about them, write notes to them, call them on the phone, and hang out at the mall hoping to see them.

Up until this year of school, you haven’t paid much attention to it. You had more important things to think about. It’s not that you didn’t notice the girls; you were just never “brave” enough to do any of that stuff.

About halfway through the school year you hear from a friend that this girl likes you. It brings a smile to your face, but again, what are you going to do about it? Well, your friend tells a few other friends that you like her. You don’t appreciate this blabbermouth saying this, but it gives you some attention from the popular crowd. For some reason, having a “girlfriend” puts you in a whole new category at school. And you’ve hardly talked to her yet!

Well, the rumors continue to fly, and suddenly someone puts a note in your hand. It’s from the girl! She says she really likes you and would like to skate with you at the all-school skating party next Monday. Again, you smile.

A bunch of guys are standing around when the note is delivered, and now they really start in on you. They’re certain you have a girlfriend.

Later that evening, you begin to think what happened during the day. You certainly like all of the extra attention you’re getting, and you don’t mind the idea of starting a friendship with this girl . . . but you’re not sure if you’re ready for a girlfriend. The problem is, if you write her a note or tell her you’re not that interested, everyone will think you’re chicken.

Questions to Think On

• How could you have avoided this dilemma?

• What are you inclined to do: play along for a few days until people forget about it, or let everyone know the next day that you’re not that interested?

• Mom and Dad: Did you ever feel pressured to “pair up” with someone when you weren’t ready?

What are your rules on such things? What do you think your son should do?

What Does God Have to Say?

He who gets wisdom loves his soul; he who cherishes understanding prospers. Proverbs 19:8

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2


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