The Yes You’ve Been Avoiding: Saying Yes to God Before You See the Whole Picture
Most followers of Jesus can remember a time when they sensed God nudging them to do something generous. It might have come as a quiet prompting during a sermon, a thought that wouldn’t go away during prayer, or a need that seemed to land right in front of them. Sometimes we say yes right away. But often we hesitate. We tell ourselves we’ll get to it, and weeks quietly turn into months.
For many of us, that nudge has a name attached to it. Maybe it’s a friend going through a hard season whom you keep meaning to call. Maybe it’s the older neighbor who spends most evenings alone. You think about reaching out, feel a small tug, and then the moment passes. Tomorrow, you tell yourself.
For others, the nudge looks different. It might be a gift you keep meaning to give, the volunteer sign-up you walked past at church, or an evening each week you sense God asking you to set aside for someone else. It might be a coworker you keep promising yourself you’ll talk to about Jesus, someday, when the timing is better. Most of us know the generous thing we keep talking ourselves out of.
Nearly all of us have a yes we’ve been avoiding. And most of us have a very good reason for avoiding it.
The Most Respectable Excuse
The reason usually sounds something like this: I’ll say yes once I can see the whole picture. Once the finances are clearer. Once the kids are older. Once I know exactly what this will require.
It sounds like wisdom. Often, though, it’s an alibi. No one ever sees the whole picture before they step out in faith. If we wait for every detail to be settled, we will wait forever.
Scripture is full of people who said yes before they had the details. When Isaiah encountered the Lord in the temple, he heard a question: “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” His answer came immediately: “Here am I. Send me!” (Isaiah 6:8, NIV). Isaiah didn’t ask where he was going, how long it would take, or what it would cost. He answered the call first and trusted God with the rest.
When believers are honest about where they struggle to follow Jesus, one answer comes up again and again: choosing comfort over sacrifice. We sing “I Surrender All” on Sunday and then guard our comfort the rest of the week. Many of us have been there more times than we would like to admit.
Generosity Grows; It Isn’t Manufactured
If the answer were simply to try harder, most of us would have done it already. But Scripture points to a different source. Galatians 5:22–23 (NIV) says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
Notice that Paul says fruit, not fruits. These nine qualities are one character that the Spirit grows in us. Generosity isn’t on the list, but goodness is, and the word Paul uses means active good done for someone else. Generosity is simply what goodness looks like when it costs you something.
That is good news for those of us who struggle with reluctance. Generosity isn’t something we have to produce on our own; it grows as we stay close to God. Fruit doesn’t appear overnight. It develops through seasons of walking with Him, and when an opportunity to give finally arrives, what has been growing inside us is what comes out.
Naming the Real Cost
If goodness is fruit, reluctance is often the weed that grows beside it. Paul knew this well. In 2 Corinthians 9:7 (NIV), he writes, “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”
Reluctance has a way of becoming a habit. We put things off so many times that eventually we stop feeling the nudge at all. This slow but steady drift is how a warm heart gradually turns lukewarm.
One way to break the pattern is to name the real price of your yes. What would it actually cost: money, time, comfort, or control? Sometimes the honest answer is that it will cost a great deal. Often, though, the cost is smaller than our fears suggest, and the biggest thing we give up is ourselves: our preferences, our schedule, our sense of being in charge. That is exactly the kind of loss that makes room for God to work.
The Harvest You May Never See
Jesus described the way sacrifice multiplies in John 12:24 (NIV): “Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.”
Jesus doesn’t promise that the seed gets to see the harvest, but He does promise the harvest. A meal delivered to a struggling family can open the door to a friendship. An invitation to coffee can become the first step in someone’s return to faith. A visit to a lonely neighbor can remind her that she hasn’t been forgotten. We rarely see how far one act of obedience travels.
That is what 1 John 3:18 (NIV) looks like in practice: “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” And giving turns out to be good for the giver too. Research on generosity has found that people who spend money on others tend to be happier than those who spend the same amount on themselves. Giving isn’t the price of joy. It’s where joy is found.
Four Steps Toward Your Yes
You may not be able to work up to a big yes overnight. But Galatians 5:25 (NIV) tells us how the fruit grows: “Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.” That happens through small, faithful steps:
Name it. Tonight, finish one sentence out loud to God: “The yes I’ve been avoiding is ___.” Don’t argue with yourself about it yet. Just name it.
Count the real cost. Write down what your yes would actually cost you: money, time, comfort, or control. Then pray, “Lord, I’m reluctant. Help me decide in my heart anyway.”
Practice a small, unseen yes. Give something today that costs you something, such as an hour, a phone call, or a $20 bill, and don’t tell anyone. Small yeses train your heart for bigger ones.
Pray Isaiah’s prayer and take the first step. Pray over your yes: “Here am I. Send me.” Then make the call, fill out the form, or start the conversation. If the full step is too big for today, tell one trusted person what you plan to do so they can encourage you.
Say Yes Before the Picture Is Clear
Some of you will say yes this week and nothing dramatic will happen. That’s all right. Seeds go into the ground quietly, and a quiet beginning doesn’t mean it didn’t work.
Think again about the name that keeps coming to mind, or the nudge you keep setting aside. You won’t see the whole picture before you act. No one ever does. But God already sees it. So name your yes, take the first small step, and trust Him with the harvest.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know whether a nudge to give is from God or just an impulse?
Test it against Scripture, pray about it, and talk it over with your spouse or a trusted believer. A prompting from the Spirit will line up with God’s Word and lead you toward love for others. Then take the first step and let God confirm the rest along the way.
Is it wrong to feel reluctant about giving?
No. Reluctance is a normal human response, and God isn’t surprised by it. Paul encourages us to decide in our hearts what to give (2 Corinthians 9:7). Bring your hesitation honestly to God and ask Him to grow a cheerful heart in you.
Does generosity only mean giving money?
Not at all. Generosity includes your time, attention, skills, home, and presence. A meal, a ride, a phone call, or an hour of listening can be just as meaningful as a financial gift (1 John 3:18).
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